It was nice to have him here. He joined us for a couple Hockey games an watched Asher play. Sadly they weren't our best games, and we are now officially done playoffs after losing both games. Regardless it was nice to have him here. While he was here we also had supper with my Aunt and her family, at one of my favorite places, her house, so that was a bonus.
I was also lucky enough to get some 1 on 1 time with him. It gave us some time to talk about some awkward things that needed to be put to rest. At Christmas I wrote a pretty harsh email to him regarding our relationship. I feel a little guilty about it. He received the brunt from my emotional roller coaster that erupted from spending my first Christmas alone in 10 years. Asher was gone to his Dads, and without him, I have no one. I was a mess. We had talked on the phone that day and something he said set me off. Poor guy. Regardless he made the best with it, and has made a huge effort to be more involved.
I realized through his efforts that I have really had a much bigger part to play in our diminishing relationship than I thought. Between our talk and some self reflection, I see that i need to put a lot more effort in as well. I want a relationship with my Dad. He's a great man, even if he isn't perfect.
It amazes me a how taken with him that Asher is. He was so excited that my Dad was coming, even though he had only really seen him once in the last year. It showed me that like good friends the time apart doesn't ruin the relationship. Asher was waving like a mad man when he saw him in the stands, and ran over to see him when they had a break between 2nd and 3rd period. When we got home he couldn't Wait o teach Grandpa how to play video games, of course.
Anyway it was a really good visit. It was exactly what I had been hoping for, and I think it set us up for some better times in the future. He helped me to see things more from his side, and that helped me let go of some resentment. Like I said, it was a good visit.